Therapy for Empty Nesters

 
 

You’ve been sacrificing your needs for the sake of your family for decades. And now that you finally have your home and your freedom to yourself again, you’re feeling a bit lost.

When your kids were growing up, you often felt guilty for wanting time and space for yourself. But, now that you have it, you don’t even know what to do with it.

Things weren’t always this confusing for you.

You woke up every morning, parented the best way you knew how, and felt like you had a solid role in your family dynamic.

And once in a while you’d secretly day dream of all the time you’d have to yourself when your children got older.

You had a clear vision of what you wanted for yourself. In fact, during the glory days you used to have a pretty good idea about how you’d spend your newfound freedom when your kids left the nest.

Yet somewhere along the way you started to feel a little lost.

The free time you so desperately craved ended up feeling empty and lonely and you’ve started questioning what you are going to do now that your children are adults and you are no longer a full time parent. All of the sudden, the reality of middle age hit you, and you wonder if the dreams you had for yourself were way off base.

You’re starting to fear that you’re never going to feel as fulfilled as you did when you were raising your kids, that you aren’t going to enjoy middle age as you expected, and that you don’t know who you are outside of being “mom.”

A lot of the time you feel confused and anxious, and you aren’t sure what your next steps are. Sometimes it feels like you have no idea who you are or what you want. You feel uncertain. What used to seem like a perfectly realistic lifestyle, free of commitments, and with more time to yourself, has turned out to be harder than you anticipated.

That’s not to say that you thought life was going to be a walk in the park.

We all have good and bad days, and you are no exception. But you never thought you’d resent the one phase of life you always looked forward to. What you didn’t expect was how you could feel so empty when you are supposed to be carefree and living your best life.

You never predicted you’d feel so lost. And you certainly had no idea that a lack of direction would keep you from enjoying the empty nest.


When you seek therapy as an Empty Nester with Marti Weiler, LCSW

  • You will process the loss of your role as “mom” and what this means for you.

  • You will start to explore how you can embrace the shift in your relationship with your kids and honor the relationship you have with yourself.

  • You will identify your expectations for this stage of life vs. the reality of what you are now experiencing.

  • You will better understand what is triggering loneliness and uncertainty and learn how to cope with these feelings and better respond to them.

  • You will start to process and accept that being an empty nester has been different than you expected.

Therapy for Empty Nesters: The Process

Therapy for empty nesters is intended to help you rediscover your identity and purpose after your kids are grown and flown.

Together, you and I will work through the challenges of middle age in order to face and embrace your newfound freedom.

We will meet online, every week for 50 minute sessions for a minimum of 6-8 weeks and you will start to regain a sense of purpose.

Here’s What to Expect

Technology: Like traditional therapy, talking online is face-to-face and sessions are kept confidential by using an encrypted HIPAA compliant platform. As long as you have a front facing camera on your phone, tablet, or computer, you can take advantage of online counseling. Most clients appreciate the ease of access, avoiding commute time, parking issues, having to take time out of work and/or finding child care.

Consult: In our free 20 minute consultation I’ll aim to get a sense of what is going on for you and how you can best be helped.  I’ll let you know if I think that therapy would be useful. We’ll get a good sense of each other when we talk, which will help us to know if I’m the best fit for you.  By the end, we’ll decide together if moving on to a full assessment is the best next step.

Intake: Our first session will consist of an intake assessment. Think of it as a mental health check up. I’ll ask you a lot of questions and get a good sense of who you are and how you might be helped. I will also offer recommendations for treatment. The intake is an opportunity to learn more about yourself and about the process of therapy. Typically, by the end of the first or second session, we will have established a clear set of treatment goals and a plan about how to best meet them. The first session is not a commitment to therapy. You can choose to proceed or not. If you decide to move forward, the therapeutic relationship begins after the intake assessment is complete.


More About Marti

As a Clinical Social Worker, I help moms of grown adults go from feeling alone and anxious to feeling fulfilled and restored.

I help you redefine your goals and passions by first exploring what you find meaningful and then dedicating time to these values.

When I work with moms of older children, I pull from a toolbox of interventions that stem from relational therapy, CBT, narrative therapy, and mindfulness to help them explore what is meaningful to them and revisit the dreams they let go of to raise their kids.



I’m passionate about helping you become the best version of yourself, and I believe that with the right tools, you can live a meaningful life surrounded by people who appreciate you and respect your needs.

You can read more about my training and specialties here.

Therapy for Empty Nesters: Who Benefits Most

Therapy for empty nesters is best for those who are struggling with both parenting and maintaining a strong relationship with their adult children.

You will benefit from this type of support if:

  • Your children are grown up and have moved out. You see them less often and you notice your relationships are changing.

  • You have more time on your hands and you’re unsure of how to embrace it.

  • You are feeling insecure and want to find a more meaningful way to experience your freedom.

There are times when therapy for empty nesters is not the best fit. These include:

  • Your child is a high school student and is not respecting you or the house rules. If this is the case, CLICK HERE.

  • Your child is no longer a high school student, but is not progressing toward adulthood. If this is the case, CLICK HERE.

Although there are many benefits of online therapy, it is not always a good match for everyone. If you are interested in learning more and want to know if online therapy is the right fit for you, feel free to submit a contact form or email marti@martiweiler.com.


Therapy for Empty Nesters: Investment

Initial Consultation - 20 minutes - FREE
Intake - 90 Minutes - $240
Individual Psychotherapy - 50 Minutes - $160

I accept payment by credit card through the client portal in TheraNest.

Insurance: I am an out-of-network provider. This means that I do not bill insurance companies directly. If your insurance company will pay for services for providers who are out-of-network, I can give you a receipt for your services with the required information. Depending on your benefits and plan, you may be able to get a portion of your fee reimbursed. I make no guarantees about the level of reimbursement you may receive. Please contact your insurance company directly to find out more. If needed, I can provide you with a list of questions to ask your insurer out about your benefits. It is the client’s responsibility to research this information prior to beginning therapy.

How can I schedule a session? I offer online session to anyone who is a resident of New York State or Virginia. Click the following button to request an online consultation:


Your Next Steps

It is possible to have healthier family relationships as you enter this next phase of parenting.

You will be better able to manage difficult behaviors and set appropriate boundaries so that both you and your teenager feel respected. You will also see that you can evolve with your children as they age, so that your relationships can strengthen and you can be there for them in the ways that they need you most.

Right now, connecting with your adult children might feel far off, but that doesn’t mean you can’t start taking the necessary steps towards a stronger family system.

Ultimately, you’ll find a way to move past the uncertainty and start seeing the many ways in which having adult children can be exciting and meaningful for everyone.